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February 25, 2011

Western Wedding Tradition

rif’s mother showed me this poem over dinner last night. Curious, I did some search on Google and found my discoveries too interesting not to share!

Something old, something new
Something borrowed, something blue
And a silver sixpence in her shoe.

Each item in this poem is said to represent a good-luck token for the bride. If she carries all of them on her wedding day, her marriage will be happy.

*picture credits: google.com

“Something old” symbolises continuity with the bride’s family and the past. To symbolise this link, brides would wear a piece of antique family jewellery or select something from the mother’s or grandmother’s wedding gown. Other things that may be chosen include a handkerchief, a scarf or a piece of lace.

Suggestions I found online:

- Use a classic car for wedding day transportation
- Place an antique bookmark to mark ceremony readings
- Use a childhood pillow for the ring bearer’s pillow
- Get a relative’s monogrammed handkerchief
- Display wedding photographs of parents, grandparents, or great-grandparents at the reception
- Find an antique tussy mussy (a conical hand-held bouquet vase) for the bride’s bouquet
- Get a vintage purse to match the bride’s gown
- Have the wedding at a historic location
- Have the bride carry a childhood treasure she has saved like a ring, bracelet, small doll, locket, etc.

Wear my mum’s necklace?
Or maybe her diamond earrings…

- Bring out the heirloom jewellery to wear like an engagement ring or wedding band, a brooch, earrings, a bracelet, a necklace, or some sparkly hair pins
- Tuck an antique hat pin into the bride’s bouquet
- Carry a vintage pill box
- Sew a button from one of the bride’s father’s old coats on the inside of the bride’s gown at the hem or place it in her purse
- Give the bride a vintage compact mirror for her purse
- Get a champagne glass to smash during the ceremony from a relative’s wedding or anniversary
- Wear a headpiece, tiara, or veil that has been handed down
- Wear vintage white gloves
- Take some of mother’s or grandmother’s wedding gown fabric or lace and sew it inside the bride’s gown or to her petticoat
- Display the parents’ cake toppers or use it as the wedding cake topper
- Tuck a love letter saved by the bride’s mother from the bride’s father into the bride’s purse
- Carry a wedding photo of parents’ or grandparents’ in the bride’s purse
- Display a photograph of the bride as a little girl or carry it in the bride’s purse
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“Something new” represents optimism and hope for the bride’s new life ahead. It could be anything that is purchased new for the wedding — wedding flowers, wedding rings, wedding shoes…etc. Wearing a new item on your wedding day conveys the message that you are are creating a new union that will endure forever.

Suggestions I found online:

- Buy a new lipstick in a pretty shade
- Have a custom perfume designed for the bride

New white wedding shoes

- Purchase a new makeup bag or new purse to use on the day of the wedding
- Get a bouquet made of silk flowers, a new tussy mussy to hold a fresh flower bouquet, or a crystal bouquet
- Find a new charm for the bride’s charm bracelet
- Select a new jewellery item to wear on the day of the wedding like a bracelet, earrings, a necklace, or an anklet
- Treat the bride to a pair of new luxurious silk stockings
- Give the bride new lingerie to wear under her gown or on her honeymoon
- Get a sun parasol to keep the bride cool in between all of those photographs
- Treat the bride to a new haircut, new highlights, or new hair extensions
- Purchase a special guest book with extra room for guests to include a personal note at the wedding
- Drive a new car for the bride’s wedding day transportation
- Pack some mints or a stick of gum
- Experiment with a new henna tattoo kit
- Give the bride a new fancy collar or outfit for her pup or kitty

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“Something borrowed” is usually an item from a happily married friend or family member, whose good fortune in marriage is supposed to carry over to the new bride. The borrowed item also reminds the bride that her friends and family will be there for her on the special day and in the future when help is needed. Anything can be borrowed, but it must be returned afterwards.

Suggestions I found online:

- Let the groom borrow the grandfather’s pocket watch or have the bride carry it in her purse
- Include flowers from the bride’s grandparents’ garden in floral arrangements at the wedding or in the bride’s bouquet
- Borrow father’s silk handkerchief
- Use aunt’s prayer book during the ceremony
- Borrow a long-time family friends’ timeshare for your honeymoon
- Borrow the song from the bride’s (or groom’s) parents’ wedding to dance to
- Have the wedding at a borrowed location like the bride’s parents’ backyard or country club
- Borrow a cell phone
- Use a best friend’s strapless bra for the day
- Borrow a headpiece or hair baubles

- Use someone’s silver knife to cut the cake with at the reception
- Wear borrowed jewellery from a happily married gal pal
- Borrow a button-down shirt or robe for the bride to wear while getting her hair and makeup done
- Borrow the flower girl or ring bearer from a friend’s wedding

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“Something blue” symbolises purity, modesty, and faithfulness. The blue item can be anything – garter, necklace pendant or blue-themed wedding flowers. In the olden days, people used to wear blue wedding gowns. “Marry in blue, lover be true,” so the proverb says.

Suggestions I found online:

- Use blue confetti

- Wear a blue Garter
- Decorate with blue balloons at the reception
- Have the groom wear a blue suit
- Wear an ice-blue wedding gown or a blue sash on the wedding gown
- Use blue ribbon or flowers in the bride’s bouquet or on the groom’s boutonniere
- Paint the bride’s toenails or fingernails with blue nail polish
- Have the florist use blueberries in the table centerpieces
- Apply blue eye shadow (after Miss Universe Malaysia 2008, no freaking way am I going to let anyone put blue eye shadow on me!)
- Wear blue-tinted contact lens
- Sprinkle the bride’s skin lightly with sparkly blue body glitter

I’m considering striking blue shoes now! :)

- Wear blue shoes
- Dress in a blue underskirt or petticoat

- Wear sapphire, tanzanite, opals, or aqua marine jewellery
- Use a blue-stone tiara
- Drive a blue car for transportation
- Carry a blue purse
- Pack blue lingerie for the honeymoon
- Get a pretty new blue scarf or handkerchief
- Tie a blue thread around your finger

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“A silver sixpence in her shoe” represents wealth and financial security. The sixpence is traditionally placed in the bride’s left shoe, but it can also be carried in the bride’s purse or sewn into the hem or lining of her gown. These days, a dime or a copper penny is used as a substitute and many brides have found other ways to interpret this wedding custom by using different items and carrying the item instead of placing it in their shoes.

Suggestions I found online:

- Buy a silver sixpence to use for the wedding
- Use an old coin from the country of the bride or groom’s ancestry. This could also double as the “something old” item.
- Get a mint coin for the bride to carry. This could also double as the “something new” item.
- Pack travellers checks if the newlyweds are honeymooning out of the country
- Carry another valuable object like a different coin, jewellery, or a bill in the denomination of the bride or groom’s ancestry

Thinking out loud:

Wedding bands are smooth, simple circles signifying eternity and are supposed to ensure an endless marriage. If my wedding band has diamonds on it, does it mean I’ll have a bumpy and difficult marriage?

So if my wedding band looks like this, how?!

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3 Responses

  1. Dia.Honey

    very nice W-Day shoes. still hunting for them right now..but couldn't find the right one…*sigh*

  2. Happy

    Hi, where did u buy for the bride shoe? which shop, how much, nice!

  3. Happy

    hi,

    Where did u buy your bride shoe? which shop, how much, it is very pretty.

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